Above all shadow rides the Sun.

Formerly fizzyginger/vivelafizz.

Sep 30

jeffwinger77 said: About Community: You act as if the age difference between Jeff and Annie is a big deal, yet many classics feature couples with larger age differences- Sabrina, Vertigo. Breezy, My Fair Lady, Last tango in Paris, etc. There are also many real-life happy couples with larger age differences: Douglas and Zeta-Jones. Depp and Heard. Bogart and Bacall. Cooper and Waterhouse. Were you really not aware of all that?

automnale:

jeffwinger77:

automnale:

Er, sure. It’s not only about the age difference - it’s the power dynamics. An arrogant 35-year-old man (or about) having sex with a 19-year-old man who has an obvious, childish crush on him is creepy, even if it happens ofteb and we’ve been conditionned to think it’s okay by hundreds or years of patriarchy. If he was 40 and she was 25 it wouldn’t be as bad, but the way it’s presented? Him taking advantage of the fact that she has a crush on him creeps me out, sorry.

Uh yeah… except that he’s never had sex with her and is nearly always burying his feelings for her under the surface. What season are you even on? SPOILER ALERT: In the season 5 finale, we discover that he’s in love with her, yet he still refuses to talk to her about his feelings. Yes, it was a bit creepy in season 1, by season 5 she’s 23 so it hardly feels like a big deal. And even though she’s 23 in season, he won’t even admit he likes her, let alone have sex with her.

I honestly don’t care that much? I don’t like it, it creeps me out, and it feels forced and cheap to me. Annie’s character growth could have very well happened without making her into a ‘love interest’ or ‘prize’ for the main character. That’s all.

I do think that Annie goes through enough growth between seasons 1 and 5 that she’s ready to have a mature relationship with him. Not as a prize, either, at least not IMO. But it’s definitely weird in the early seasons, yeah.

yourpersonalcheerleader:

Reject the notion that you are supposed to be at a certain place by now.

Don’t measure yourself to some colloquial set of social constructions. 

(via cyan-013)


Reasons I am happy:

  • I finished my Spanish paper. I did not think I would ever finish my Spanish paper.
  • Pilf drew me binicuddles and they are precious.
  • I don’t have another paper due for two weeks.
  • I have coffee.

pilferingapples:

Day 29- Rainy day! (so out of order…)
but more importantly, belated birthday art for fizzygingr , who asked for Bini cuddles! hope your next year is a lovely one, and that you can always find your umbrella.

OH MY GOSH PILF. PILF. I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY THIS IS PRECIOUS AND PERFECT. THE COLOR SCHEME IS GREAT THE CUDDLINESS IS GREAT THEIR FACES ARE GREAT THE FACT THAT THEY HAVE A SLEEPY KITTY IS GREAT. THE POSES ARE SO RELAXED AND COMFORTABLE. IS BOSSUET BEING ALL SYMBOLIC WITH HIS  OBSERVING THE WEATHER??? (BUT HE KEEPS A HAND ON JOLY BECAUSE HE’S STILL FIRMLY GROUNDED IN WHERE HE IS NOW.) (WHY DOES MY SPELLCHECK RECOGNIZE JOLY BUT NO BOSSUET?) (WHY DOES IT RECOGNIZE PILF, FOR THAT MATTER?) ANYWAY THIS IS ADORABLE OH MY GOODNESS AND SUPER SUPER LOVELY AND THANK YOU SO MUCH *HUUUUUUUUUUGS*

pilferingapples:

Day 29- Rainy day! (so out of order…)

but more importantly, belated birthday art for fizzygingr , who asked for Bini cuddles! hope your next year is a lovely one, and that you can always find your umbrella.

OH MY GOSH PILF. PILF. I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY THIS IS PRECIOUS AND PERFECT. THE COLOR SCHEME IS GREAT THE CUDDLINESS IS GREAT THEIR FACES ARE GREAT THE FACT THAT THEY HAVE A SLEEPY KITTY IS GREAT. THE POSES ARE SO RELAXED AND COMFORTABLE. IS BOSSUET BEING ALL SYMBOLIC WITH HIS  OBSERVING THE WEATHER??? (BUT HE KEEPS A HAND ON JOLY BECAUSE HE’S STILL FIRMLY GROUNDED IN WHERE HE IS NOW.) (WHY DOES MY SPELLCHECK RECOGNIZE JOLY BUT NO BOSSUET?) (WHY DOES IT RECOGNIZE PILF, FOR THAT MATTER?) ANYWAY THIS IS ADORABLE OH MY GOODNESS AND SUPER SUPER LOVELY AND THANK YOU SO MUCH *HUUUUUUUUUUGS*


theonlycheeseleft said: YOUR BIRTHDAY I MISSED YOUR BIRTHDAYFJDSKLFJDKSLJFDLKSJKLFDSJLK I'M SORRY HAPPY BIRTHDAY

IT IS OKAY FRIEND. THANK YOU!


Sep 29
e9anime:

Spike is too cool 

e9anime:

Spike is too cool 

(via fizzygingr)




I HAVE AN OUTLINE. A pretty thorough outline that is almost a draft!!!


stillwaitingforaliens:

fizzygingr:

stillwaitingforaliens:

fizzygingr:

stillwaitingforaliens:

fizzygingr:

Marie: no, it’s my therapist.

Drop him/her NOW. They are an unhealthy element, and don’t deserve your time. They are a grade-A asshat, and should never be allowed to therapy-ize again.  

For crap’s sake, my parents have still cried on the phone to their parents. They’re fifty. 

I can dig up the contact info for my off-campus therapist from up there if you’d like. Jamie is awesome. :) 

I just don’t think it’s practical right now. Plus she’s gotten me this far, so my parents really like her. And they’re the ones who pay the bills. But thanks.

Yes, it’s going to be a bit of a pain in the neck. I’m not going to deny it. Changing a medical professional of any sort sucks. But someone who treats family like that, is trying to your family (even if it’s unintentional). Someone who says/does something that doesn’t add up or feels wrong or makes you uncomfortable is the wrong therapist for you. Someone with an attitude like that will not help you get better, they will drag you down at some point (speaking from experience—with a therapist—here). They make you hurt more and add to your problems, and if let go for long enough, it becomes a new problem. 

Your parents want you to get better, right? They want a happy, healthy Hanna. So  tell your parents what happened. Tell them what happened and how it made you feel. Tell them they can contact me for my story if they need extra convincing that you need to change.  I will be glad to speak with them if you think it will help. It doesn’t matter how far she’s gotten you, you are the one that came that far. Changing therapists doesn’t put you back at square one, it just moves you to a different path. You won’t magically lose your progress by changing, and someone who is that toxic won’t help you progress further. 

I want to see a happy, healthy, not stressed, smiling Hanna.  I don’t want you, or anyone, to go through the absolute hell I’ve experienced. And if it takes me screaming my story from rooftops and mountaintops, I’ll do it.

So please, please, please, make this change for the better.

I told them what she said. They said that a) I’m misinterpreting her and putting words in her mouth, and b) even if that is what she said, I should ignore that and listen to the other 99% of the advice she gives me, which is actually helpful. I can’t go through the whole process of switching just because of this one comment she made. I don’t think it’s worth it.

Trust me it’s worth it. They really should contact me. Honestly. If you need my contact info, let me know. Because I’ve been through the system, been screwed over by the system, etc.

Your parents need to understand that this woman is the wrong therapist for you, and that your progress can be hampered and/or hindered by this.

If need be, I’ll bring up my family’s experience with my uncle, specifically with the limited medical knowledge that my mother has imparted on me.

If push really comes to shove, have you tried the UCC? Therapy there is pretty cheap, and when I left, they had a support group for those with OCD. One of my friends used to go to it.

Thing is, she actually is really helpful? I mean, she says the odd thing I’m not comfortable with, but apart from that she’s been really really good. I wouldn’t say she’s hampering my progress at all.


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